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| Posted By: Ted Posted On: Feb 20, 2020 Views: 429 | Queer? Yesterday a member asked me to poll you on your attitude toward being called “queer” rather than “gay.” It’s seems ‘queer’ is becoming quite acceptable to some. To me it’s one of those terms that got directed at me by my own father, along with ‘fag’ and ‘poofter’. They were hurtful then, and they are hurtful now, 60 years later, and that hurt will never go away. These days I don’t mind being called ‘gay’ or ‘homosexual’ (but never “homo’) but I still shudder at ‘queer’. Give us your opinions on your attitude to ‘queer’! |
| Posted By: John45 Posted On: Feb 20, 2020 Views: 428 | Queer I grew up with the word "queer" as a insult, put down, yet today I prefer the word "Queer" over the alphabet soup of letters. The soup covers all the modern terminology that most of us can not remember what they mean. |
| Posted By: Jake2063 Posted On: Feb 20, 2020 Views: 427 | Queers to me, queer is in the same category as faggot, c-cksvcker and Cum dumpster. They are all meant to be condescending and a put-down. Yet if a Hetero-man's wife or girlfriend swallows his cum that makes her a great catch and not a cum dumpster. He might use that term with his buddies about his wife of girl, but my guess if he calls her that, it will more than likely be the very last time he gets oral sex from her... So there is the condescending factor there. I am bi, but I would rather be called gay or a homosexual than queer or a ****er. That was like the ultimate insult to a guy in the 50s and 60s... to be called a queer. I'm from the US so the 'poofer' term is more English or Aussie, I think. But I could be wrong. |
| Posted By: eqp1959 Posted On: Feb 20, 2020 Views: 425 | QUEER I identify as QUEER, not queer but QUEER, loud and proud. Gay just seems too polite, whereas QUEER is in your face. I was too young to be a part of Stonewall, but I was sexually aware and I remember the chants, "We're here, we're QUEER...get used to it!" For younger generations, Pride is a reason to party and not to remember those who rose up to give us the freedom we enjoy and yet, the fight is far from over. |
| Posted By: Vcdnic Posted On: Feb 20, 2020 Views: 79 | Queer Prefer gay or homosexuel. |
| Posted By: Charlie Hurd Posted On: Feb 20, 2020 Views: 78 | Queer? I prefer gay or homosexual. For me at my 78 years, Queer has a pejorative connotation set in the long distant past. It was hurtful, as you say, and still reminds me of those days despite the passage of much time. Thanks for asking. |
| Posted By: John H. Posted On: Feb 20, 2020 Views: 77 | Gay or Queer? Although I have never been called it, thankfully, I do not and never have liked the term “queer”!! I much prefer to be referred to as being “gay”! |
| Posted By: Arbexx2 Posted On: Feb 20, 2020 Views: 76 | Queer No I totally agree........ Hurtful and hateful term used only to hurt and shame!!!! |
| Posted By: Arbexx2 Posted On: Feb 20, 2020 Views: 75 | Poofer? I have never heard the term "poofer"............. I'm in USA. Is that a term used in Australia and England? |
| Posted By: tranny38fixer Posted On: Feb 20, 2020 Views: 74 | Queer I'm 74 and have not been out that long, (20 years) at least in public. I really don't care what someone may call me. I am who I am. I've been referred to by queer, fag, homo whatever, primarily by family members. kids and so forth. I am what I am, I am who I am. Love it or leave it. Fu.. em. They hate me. I don't need them. I feel free and I am going to live who I am!!! |
| Posted By: trevors02 Posted On: Feb 20, 2020 Views: 73 | Queer? I prefer "Sir" or "M'lord1" |
| Posted By: Gene Canales Posted On: Feb 20, 2020 Views: 72 | Gay/Queer I'm a 58 year old person that has always identified as a gay male (for as long as I can remember). In my school years, I was outed without my choice or consent. Words did and still do hurt. The word queer never seemed to bother me very much back then, and today I think I like it better then the word gay. I've never really felt "gay" (as in deliriously happy) but queer (as in happily different) seems to fit. Remember too , that any adjective can be used negatively or positively. A few year back, even the word gay was being used as a negative, as in ".....that's so gay" |
| Posted By: LubbockGayMale Posted On: Feb 20, 2020 Views: 71 | Queer I'm a widowed 69 yr old GWM who's always known he liked men! If asked, I state "I'm queer, I'm here, get over it!" |
| Posted By: Ray Robinson Posted On: Feb 20, 2020 Views: 70 | Poofter Yes, that term [poofter]is something we adopted in Australia from our British bastard ancestors, and I grew up with it. However, now you hardly ever hear it, as in the past 20 years we have enacted laws which forbid you to use all those queer, faggot, poofter, terms for fear of legal action. (Having said that, I have no doubt in certain areas of our major capitals, Sydney, Brisbane and Melbourne, you would still be called that by a certain class.) I have been called that when I lived in Sydney, but I just retorted with, “You’ve only called me that because you’re hoping I’ll suck your cock, but unfortunately you’re not my type!” That always shut them up as they expected me to run away and hide like some little fairy. As for queer, I hate the term as once again thanks to our “Pommie” ancestors it was a derogatory term they brought here after WW2 when we had mass migration from that country. Before that we only ever heard that term to describe someone who had a major mental illness. I am now 76 years old and only in the past few years did the “Queer” expression pop it’s ugly head up, and I absolutely hate it. I was on the board of a GLBT Counselling charity and I absolutely forbad the term being included in our organisations title. When the lesbians took over and it became LGBTQIF, I resigned and have stayed out of the gay community ever since. I know live in a community with my dog & cat, where I am surrounded by people from different cultures, ages and are all straight married people with kids. Because of my openness they all ask after my welfare, do things for me, and when I have been ill looked after my house, my garden, and my pets. They have a list of contacts for my scattered family should anything happen to me, and so on. On a personal level, I have known since I was 8 years old that I was only attracted to boys, and later men, so when I heard the word Gay in my teens I was proud to be called that. I was always up front with my attraction to men and made no attempt to hide it, I was not effeminate and when I have told someone, “I am gay” I always got the response, “I would never have guessed”. My family have always said to me that I am walking a dangerous line, but because I am open and up front, I have found people are disarmed immediately and they don’t know how to react, so don’t. If people ask questions as they are curious about my life, I answer them with confidence and honesty. |
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