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| Posted By: renee Posted On: Jun 12, 2002 Views: 489 | communicating i was just wondering, has anyone out there told anyone about there problem, and if they have, what sort of reaction did you get? Especially by family members etc. My parents pretty much think that i am normal, so i am scared to even think about telling them, but what if they figure it out...? |
| Posted By: Laura Posted On: Jun 15, 2002 Views: 482 | RE: communicating I'll never forget what my mum said the first time she saw my lacerated forearms. She shouted to my dad: "Phil! Laura's started slashing her wrists, like those mad kids!". I got no sympathy from them, they just shouted and told me not to be so stupid. At the time it made everything a hell of a lot worse, but they got used to the idea and realised that it's not something I choose to do, and now it's good to know that I have someone to talk to. Although they're not exactly understanding, it's easier than keeping the secret. I think the best thing is to tell somebody you think might understand, it'll make everything easier. The more people who know about your cutting the less people you have to hide it from, y'see? |
| Posted By: kristin Posted On: Jun 18, 2002 Views: 478 | RE: communicating My mom, when she found out, said that she'd suspected, but had 'decided not to invade my privacy.' I first started when I was in fourth grade, and I'd use my fingernails to cut my back. it was only recently that I started actually using knives, and I used them on my hip. I have never been able to talk to my mom, so I told my youth pastor. he and his wife really helped, because she used to SI. he asked my permission before he told my mom, and my mom said that she had wanted to help me, but we have military tricare, and she keeps 'forgetting' to call for a referral to an actual therapist. I'm seventeen, and it's been two months and I still haven't been able to go. My mom thinks that when I seem happy I'm better, but she just doesn't get that it's all a mask. But talking about it helped. |
| Posted By: Hollie Posted On: Jun 20, 2002 Views: 473 | RE: communicating I once tried to tell a close friend but she didn't take any notice which upset me. By trying to tell someone, i put myself in a situation where I again felt hurt, so again turned to cutting as a relief. The idea of telling my parents is scary as they have this idea of me as an intelligent and 'normal' 16 year old. |
| Posted By: stuart Posted On: Jun 24, 2002 Views: 469 | RE: communicating When my mom saw my arm, she said "oh, you need help". That sounded kinda bad but i think she meant well. First person I told surprised me by telling me he'd done the same a few years ago. Sometimes people will surprise you. Sometimes, it's nice to surprise people too! |
| Posted By: Elyssa Posted On: Jul 4, 2002 Views: 460 | RE: communicating I started ripping all the skin off of my bottom lip when I was five. My parents told me not to over and over again so I switched to ripping the skin off of my thumbs, and on occasion my other fingers and bottom lip. My mom knows I do it and every once in a while she says "You shouldn't do that, it's unhealthy." But thats it. I told a friend once and he said that he had noticed months earlier and that it wasnt very aesthetically pleasing and then changed the subject.. but two of my ex-boyfriends used to carry band-aids around with them and put them on my thumbs when it got really bad..that was sort of endearing. |
| Posted By: Hannah Posted On: Jul 5, 2002 Views: 455 | RE: RE: communicating I've told two people, my best friend and another friend. My best friend was sorta...disconnected from the fact, never talking about it yet always suspecting that every little scrape was from it, like that was all I think about...My other friend, I told quite my accident, but he tried to get me to stop and I think he want to give up, which is ok I s'pose, I just figure the less people know the better. |
| Posted By: Meg Posted On: Jul 7, 2002 Views: 450 | RE: communicating Ahh.. my mom started crying. Then she called my dad in and tried to blame it on him. Then they started fighting so I shut them outta my room. But that was when it was basically nothing. I remember when I showed the athletic trainer my sliced up thighs and she gasped and asked me if I ever wanted to wear a swimsuit. I am used to people's reaction by now, I mean, I kinda have to be. I have scars on visible places, but the bad ones are where none can see. But I remember my coach had this pained look on her face, as if I was tourmenting her... as if my knife had sliced her heart rather than my thighs.. |
| Posted By: Ashleigh Posted On: Apr 27, 2003 Views: 438 | RE: RE: RE: communicating Hey Renee well I just read all those replys and wanted to reply for a different reason. The way you tell people is your decision although it is hard no matter what way. Some people arent going to be sure what to say some people are going to make you hate yourself BUT alot of people are going to be there to help.It is the hardest thing to do telling people and the reaction sometimes are hard to take although in the end it is the best thing to do. Do what you feel is right and tell someone who u trust when you are ready but don't leave it to late. Take care |