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| Posted By: Megan Posted On: Feb 13, 2005 Views: 548 | Father is immature I am 17 and 7 months pregnant.In the beginning, Alex (father) was there for my emotional support. But as the months passed, he would not treat me like his girlfriend, much less, the mother of his child!it is really depressing to think how I am going to handle all this. He expects me to be handling this on m yown fine but I'm not.he thinks he is going to be there when Savannah is born.He won't.Recently he has been riding with friends and going off and haveing fun,not even letting me know where he is.I have cried my eyes out for the past 5 months.I no longer have any feelings for him and I am no longer attracted to anything about him.I don't know what all I have to do, and what I can do now, before Savannah is born. Such as child support, custody, and well, everything! His parents have no clue and neither does he of how I feel.He thinks I am just upset with him and will get over it. I won't! I'm so sick of all this. How can I have a happy first pregnany and keep Vannah-baby happy if I am crying and upset all the time.I know I should forget about him, but I want him to pay and not to have anything to do with my baby! he doesn't deserve it..any help, would be greatly appreciated! |
| Posted By: amanda Posted On: Feb 20, 2005 Views: 547 | RE: Father is immature It is so hard to be a single mom, but the payment of having your child tell you how much they love you and all the hugs you will recieve is payment enough. I am 23, I have a four year old and I am 6 months pregnant going through a divorce. My husband was so wonderful in the beggining, we were only 18 when I became pregnant so sure he made mistakes because we were imature but he loved his son. I believed he was an amazing man who just needed time to grow up. Unfortunately he only got worse and has now dissapeared with no trace. He has left his entire family wondering what is going on and the saddest part is seeing how it has broke my sons heart that his dad has nothing to do with him. My advice to you is if you think this guy is not going to be there for your child full-time than dont let him start. However dont go based off of hurt feelings he has caused you to have by leaving you lonly. The feelings he has for you has nothing to do with the feelings he will have for his child. If hes into drugs or heavy drinking I would definetly keep him to supervised visits if any. Above all else if he has already made you so unhappy and hasnt been there to support you I would be done with him now before you waist to many years with a man who is not worthy of you. As far as child support goes just hope he keeps a job, otherwise theres nothing you can do but make sure you have a good enough job to support you and your child. I wish you luck with your new baby and hope all works out easy for you, but if not keep your head up and no that things will get better and you must keep smiling for your childs sake. They need to atleast believe you are happy in order for them to be happy. They count on us above anyone as their mother to make life fun. |
| Posted By: Meghan Posted On: Jan 23, 2006 Views: 471 | RE: Father is immature I know how exactly how you feel. Im just barely 18 and 6 months pregnant and the father is no where to be found. He claims that the child isnt his and that i cheated on him. Hes irresponsible and no good and has left me and has a girlfriend. I just wanted to let you know that you have to be strong just like im going have to be. I think that after this it will makes incrediblly mature that we will be glad we are doing this. |