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Posted By: Mike D Posted On: May 6, 2004 Views: 839 | Self-mutilation I don't know if this is a good place to look for advice, but I'm kinda lost. My girlfriend is real depressed, shes in therapy and stuff, but she keeps carving words and **** into her arms. It freaks me out. I don't want to break up with her, and otherwise shes great (ha ha) she keeps telling me its the only thing that makes her feel better and she'll stop eventually. Does anyone have any experience with this, shes making me crazy, I can't sleep over it. Any hope that she'll stop? |
Posted By: dude Posted On: May 6, 2004 Views: 837 | RE: Self-mutilation wasn't that on an episode of the real world? |
Posted By: dude Posted On: May 6, 2004 Views: 836 | RE: Self-mutilation seriously though, she obviously needs help. if she's seeing a therapist, then wouldn't they see signs of it? If not, then perhaps you should tell them. |
Posted By: Dragonmaster Posted On: May 6, 2004 Views: 818 | RE: Self-mutilation just make shure that she knows that you can't sleep over it. As long as she dosent try to kill herself though then it'll probably go away. Is she into Garbage? It's a music group. The singer used to do this sort of thing. She's over it now. It might help her if she see's another who did the same thing and is ok now. |
Posted By: Harry Pillcrusher Posted On: May 6, 2004 Views: 808 | RE: Self-mutilation I had a friend that did that in high school back in '98. She was real depressed I guess because she really liked my best friend and he started dating her best friend. Anyways, long story short - - she would do that but she was really booksmart and she would write words like 'alienation' and 'apathetic' on her arms...it really sucked because after she did it she felt really nervous that someone would see it and it was summer so she had to wear long sleeves in the hot ass sun. She's better now though, although she still has a lot of **** in her life to deal with. I feel bad for her, but she's a trooper. |
Posted By: BakaKage Posted On: May 7, 2004 Views: 780 | RE: Self-mutilation Mike, i used to do similar, and i've dealt with many people who do this on a near-therapist style. I can help some, but there is a lot of info i need reguarding frequency, depth, extremes, whether she hides it, shows it, or ignores it...etc. If you have an instant messenger go ahead and drop a line to me. Ill see what i can do. MSN Messenger - surgstriker@hotmail.com AIM - surgstriker Im a member of Laid-Off land as of this week (company cutbacks) so im home most of the day and my messengers are always on. |
Posted By: maxxamillion Posted On: May 8, 2004 Views: 749 | RE: Self-mutilation harry p, your friend doesn't sound like a trooper to me. she sounds like a psycho- a lot of **** to deal with in her life? who the hell hasn't had someone they like decide they like someone else? you don't see us all cutting ourselfs up like freaking maineacs. |
Posted By: BakaKage Posted On: May 8, 2004 Views: 746 | RE: Self-mutilation Everyone has thier own way of destroying themselves when they feel bad. Oddly enough, a number of guys will sleep with as many women as they can to deal with pain. Sounds like a good thing right? but they know its not...it eats them away and they have to justify to themselves every day why its okay that they are like that, that they arent hurting anyone, they arent hurting themselves...they lie constantly. Everyone has a way of self mutilation, although it may not be physically manifested, and in some cases those of average intelligence might actually assume they are doing good things. We all have our ways. Some jsut choose to only hurt themselves instead of bringing others down with them. |
Posted By: starfly Posted On: May 8, 2004 Views: 745 | RE: Self-mutilation Screw you, Maxx, and Harry P, did you ever talk to your friend about why she cut herself? as a former cutter, I'm thinking it was probably a lot more than that guy hooking up with her friend. Cutting is about feeling ****ty and needing to have an excuse- or a match on the outside for how you feel on the inside. And even though I'm no longer in that leaky boat, I have a lot of empathy and respect for those who are because it's a sad sad place to be when you realize that you feel so badly that you need to cut yourself just to find equilibrium. |
Posted By: Cahsie Posted On: Jan 25, 2008 Views: 656 | RE: Self-mutilation This is about 3 or 4 years too late. I hope she stopped. i dealt with the same thing this past year...I ended up talking to someone about it because the night before I nearly killed myself. All I can say, is she needs to know you care. If you ever meet anyone who does it ever again...let them know you care. That's the only thing that kept me alive. |