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| Posted By: Snrub Posted On: May 9, 2005 Views: 588 | Being Unhappy and/or Alone Dont want to go through life being unhappy. Also dont want to be alone. I want to share my happy life with someone special. |
| Posted By: GirlUWant Posted On: May 10, 2005 Views: 582 | RE: Being Unhappy and/or Alone Yea, and that really sucks when you are married, huh? I was in the worst marriage for 16 years, and now I am so singly happy, but I'm sure that someday I will remarry, but only to Mr. Right-for-me! |
| Posted By: Karey Posted On: May 10, 2005 Views: 576 | RE: Being Unhappy and/or Alone I am very happy alone with my monkeys. |
| Posted By: Bakakage Posted On: May 10, 2005 Views: 571 | RE: Being Unhappy and/or Alone Being alone is bad enough, but sometimes its even worse to have "friends" who dont care. So you are in a group of people who you know but knowing no one cares. Its a hollow feeling beyond that of the other phobias. |
| Posted By: James Posted On: May 10, 2005 Views: 548 | RE: RE: Being Unhappy and/or Alone Makes you wonder why bother, sometimes I wonder what my use is here, if I have no use why stay around? |
| Posted By: Snrub Posted On: May 10, 2005 Views: 543 | RE: Being Unhappy and/or Alone Thanks GUW, I am not proud of having strong feelings for someone else whilst I am still with my sweet wife, infact everyone probably feels pain of some sort at these tumultuous times. I think I know its time to move on and subject to making sure we really do want to do something together (and there are some obsticles!) I think I shall end up with her at some stage. I do question whether I am being selfish (commitment vs happiness) because neither of us had done anything wrong, its just the grown apart thing. And before you know-it-alls jump on my back, she is fine now - the depression is in the past. And as best I can I will remain there for her as a friend. |
| Posted By: Bakakage Posted On: May 10, 2005 Views: 542 | RE: Being Unhappy and/or Alone DM...seriously. you wont be getting any compliments or confirmation. At best i will say you provide this board with entertainment. If you died there would be no posts for a while out of mourning. (i think) You have no purpose. I have no purpose. At least you have a friend in beth and im sure she would be mad if you left. |
| Posted By: Snrub Posted On: May 10, 2005 Views: 540 | RE: Being Unhappy and/or Alone And James (I liked Dragonmaster better actually) your question is the question of life isnt it, what are we here for?. I am totally not religious but I think sometimes you just have to ride out the sh1t in the belief that your happiness will come to you some day. But on the same token, if you try and go and get it maybe you'll get there sooner. Thats why I am actively trying to make things happen at the moment (see above), because I dont want to have ANY regrets later about 'the one that got away', I honestly feel like it is a great opportunity for me, and I represent a great opportunity for her life to be more complete (and before I met her I would not have felt like I was capable of doing that for anyone, so hang in there DM). |
| Posted By: Snrub Posted On: May 10, 2005 Views: 539 | RE: Being Unhappy and/or Alone Sorry, post #3. Whilst I referred to James in my Post #2 it applies to everyone... |
| Posted By: Snrub Posted On: May 10, 2005 Views: 532 | RE: Being Unhappy and/or Alone Thanks Joe, I might have a look at that. I cant really go into reasons and things here obviously, and at the end of the day I dont care what anyone else thinks but I am happy that 1) I have done everything I could to try and be happy here and 2) I can walk away with a clear concience albeit with a heavy heart. |
| Posted By: GirlUWant Posted On: May 10, 2005 Views: 527 | RE: Being Unhappy and/or Alone It is hard keeping a marriage going when that spark is gone and you've tried a million times. I was like a walking zombie before I left my marriage. NOw I am back to my real self, ultra-happy and content in life. I had a much nicer house, much nicer car, lots of money in the bank, but I am 100 times happier now. |
| Posted By: Snrub Posted On: May 11, 2005 Views: 519 | RE: Being Unhappy and/or Alone Yep, thats the friggin million dollar question isnt it?, do you go for the happiness or just keep the status quo? |
| Posted By: GirlUWant Posted On: May 11, 2005 Views: 509 | RE: Being Unhappy and/or Alone For me it was more like co-dependency & dysfunction vs. freedom and function, which resulted in happiness. |
| Posted By: Snrub Posted On: May 12, 2005 Views: 496 | RE: Being Unhappy and/or Alone Thanks GUW... |