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Posted By: rkelli

Posted On: Feb 9, 2004
Views: 1903
CHEAP PEOPLE!

definitely the worst i had one guy who made me split the check AND pay extra because I had wine!!!


Posted By: cheap men

Posted On: Feb 9, 2004
Views: 1895
RE: CHEAP PEOPLE!

I'm a guy, and I don't understand why some men try to pull off the whole splitting check thing. It's admiral if the girl asks to pay for her share, but the guy should always say 'no thanks' and pay. If the girl insists, then fine...otherwise, you are the MAN...you PAY! How much can the dinner check really be? If you are poor, or short on cash, then don't ask the girl to dinner...meet for drinks or go to an inexpensive restaurant. Paying only your share is a big turnoff for most girls, and chances are you've just cut your chances of getting laid by half.


Posted By: Jay

Posted On: Feb 9, 2004
Views: 1889
RE: CHEAP PEOPLE!

Both people should offer to pay, and there should be no greater expectation that the man ends up paying than the woman does. Splitting's okay if both want to do that. Do you people seriously still run into women who expect men to pay or men who insist on paying (no matter what)? Relationships are best when there's equal footing, and that's also the best way to begin them. This is the 21st century and the happen' folks I meet, at least, all seem to be about gender equality.


Posted By: a guy

Posted On: Feb 9, 2004
Views: 1883
RE: CHEAP PEOPLE!

If a guys asks a girl out for a date, it's the guy's responsibility to pay. Sorry, say what you want about gender equality, blah blah blah....if you don't pay, then the girl will think you are cheap, if not poor - and none are favorable traits if you want this girl to like you. If the girl insists on paying her share, then that's fine - I would let her. But if the subject never comes up, I have no problem paying for the whole bill, especially if I asked the girl out. Besides, what a completely weird way of ending a date...totaling up a bill and telling the girl what she owes? Why even bother?


Posted By: Andrea

Posted On: Feb 9, 2004
Views: 1879
RE: CHEAP PEOPLE!

Whatever happened to whoever does the asking does the paying? That just makes the most sense to me. If you want to start with women on equal footing, they should be doing half the inviting and thus half the paying. And a word to the guys about when your date *insists* on paying for her half the meal - whenever I did that (before I got married) I was trying to convey the message that I didn't want there to be any impression that I 'owed' him anything because I usually wasn't interested and I didn't want him getting his expectations up.


Posted By: Eating doesn't mean owing

Posted On: Feb 9, 2004
Views: 1870
RE: CHEAP PEOPLE!

If a guy pays for your dinner and then he feels that you 'owe him something' then the guy is a douchebag anyway. Who cares. If a guys asks me out, he should expect to pay the whole check and expect nothing in return. If he has other expectations, that's his problem. I'm all about gender equality and don't expect him to order for me or anything, but if I can pick between someone willing to pay for my food & someone exactly the same who's not, guess who I would pick? It may be because I'm getting old but I doubt that because I'm only 23.


Posted By: some guy

Posted On: Feb 9, 2004
Views: 1855
RE: CHEAP PEOPLE!

not even a bj?? geez, that sucks. remind me to never take you out!


Posted By: LKN

Posted On: Feb 9, 2004
Views: 1846
RE: CHEAP PEOPLE!

I agree with Andrea. Whoever does the asking, does the paying. If you invite a girl to dinner, then you are asking her to come with you to a meal you pay for. If she asked, offer to pay, but don't insist. Chivalry isn't inappropriate with the mondern gender equivalent world.


Posted By: VOid

Posted On: Feb 9, 2004
Views: 1843
RE: CHEAP PEOPLE!

how can you people who say you believe in gender equality, in the same sentance, also say the man has to pay? thats kinda of hypocritical, isnt it? Sure there are times when the man should pay, and there are times when the check should be split.

And you people who say if the man doesnt pay, that he is cheap or poor, well, whos really the cheap one, when you expect the man, no matter what, to pick up the check? And saying he's poor, so therefore you wouldnt want to go out with him, thats pretty shallow.


Posted By: hot chick

Posted On: Feb 9, 2004
Views: 1840
RE: CHEAP PEOPLE!

It's a cruel world. Yes, if a girl barely knows someone...unless he woos her over with his good looks and sparkling wit and charm, a girl isn't going to immediately go for a guy who is cheap or seemingly poor. Shallow? Perhaps, but lets face it - girls want to know that their potential mate can provide for them. Gender equality is all fine and good, but on a first date it's basically out the door. If the girl insists on paying her share, then let her. Chances are she thinks you're a boob and doesn't want to feel that she owes you anything. My question to you though - why ruin a nice date by asking for the girl to pay her share? It's just SO tacky! Just pay for the whole damn thing and be a man. The girl will appreciate it, and thoughts of "cheap" or "poor" won't even be entering her mind. When you've been dating for a little while, then you can worry about "gender equality". If you want to get laid, pay the bill bud.


Posted By: cool chick in Boston

Posted On: Feb 10, 2004
Views: 1797
RE: CHEAP PEOPLE!

The bottom line: In America, women are STILL paid less money for the same work as a man. We have lots of successful women out there, but there is still a pay inequality. So, men SHOULD make up for that by offering to pay on a date. They can deal with it (or fly solo). Period.


Posted By: Moses in the form of Nik Ashmost

Posted On: Feb 10, 2004
Views: 1781
11th commandment

And the Lord said unto thee. Let the one who requests the company, pay for the company.

(in other words, the one who asks for the date, pays for the date.)



-unrelated sidenote: This is the commandment Nevada used to legitimize prostitution.


Posted By: The Doc

Posted On: Feb 10, 2004
Views: 1773
RE: CHEAP PEOPLE!

If being chivilrous (spelling) in a gender equal world is unacceptable, then I don't want to be in this world. If being a gentleman and opening doors, pulling out chairs, walking on the side of the road with traffic so if a car came onto the side walk it would hit you first (Probably wouldn't matter anyways), and all that other gentlemanly stuff **** off my date, then she's not the girl for me. Sorry if I'm old fashioned in that respect, but deal with it. Dating is all about finding out about someone and if you're doing things that just aren't you, then you're leading the person on.


Posted By: F. B.

Posted On: Feb 10, 2004
Views: 1772
RE: CHEAP PEOPLE!

If a guy asks me on a date, I would expect him to pay. Especially if it's the first date. Once you are going out for a while you should start to split it up.

And why in the heck would you WANT to date someone poor? I did that once. SUCKS AZZ. I work for my money, he can too.


Posted By: VOid

Posted On: Feb 11, 2004
Views: 1758
RE: CHEAP PEOPLE!

why would you want to date someone poor? perhaps because you have alot in common, perhaps because you like them? perhaps because your not shallow (im not saying im not, i am)?


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