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Posted By: Mike D

Posted On: May 6, 2004
Views: 720
Self-mutilation

I don't know if this is a good place to look for advice, but I'm kinda lost. My girlfriend is real depressed, shes in therapy and stuff, but she keeps carving words and **** into her arms. It freaks me out. I don't want to break up with her, and otherwise shes great (ha ha) she keeps telling me its the only thing that makes her feel better and she'll stop eventually. Does anyone have any experience with this, shes making me crazy, I can't sleep over it. Any hope that she'll stop?


Posted By: dude

Posted On: May 6, 2004
Views: 718
RE: Self-mutilation

wasn't that on an episode of the real world?


Posted By: dude

Posted On: May 6, 2004
Views: 717
RE: Self-mutilation

seriously though, she obviously needs help. if she's seeing a therapist, then wouldn't they see signs of it? If not, then perhaps you should tell them.


Posted By: Dragonmaster

Posted On: May 6, 2004
Views: 699
RE: Self-mutilation

just make shure that she knows that you can't sleep over it. As long as she dosent try to kill herself though then it'll probably go away.

Is she into Garbage? It's a music group. The singer used to do this sort of thing. She's over it now. It might help her if she see's another who did the same thing and is ok now.


Posted By: Harry Pillcrusher

Posted On: May 6, 2004
Views: 689
RE: Self-mutilation

I had a friend that did that in high school back in '98. She was real depressed I guess because she really liked my best friend and he started dating her best friend. Anyways, long story short - - she would do that but she was really booksmart and she would write words like 'alienation' and 'apathetic' on her arms...it really sucked because after she did it she felt really nervous that someone would see it and it was summer so she had to wear long sleeves in the hot ass sun. She's better now though, although she still has a lot of **** in her life to deal with. I feel bad for her, but she's a trooper.


Posted By: BakaKage

Posted On: May 7, 2004
Views: 661
RE: Self-mutilation

Mike, i used to do similar, and i've dealt with many people who do this on a near-therapist style. I can help some, but there is a lot of info i need reguarding frequency, depth, extremes, whether she hides it, shows it, or ignores it...etc. If you have an instant messenger go ahead and drop a line to me. Ill see what i can do.
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Im a member of Laid-Off land as of this week (company cutbacks) so im home most of the day and my messengers are always on.


Posted By: maxxamillion

Posted On: May 8, 2004
Views: 630
RE: Self-mutilation

harry p, your friend doesn't sound like a trooper to me. she sounds like a psycho- a lot of **** to deal with in her life? who the hell hasn't had someone they like decide they like someone else? you don't see us all cutting ourselfs up like freaking maineacs.


Posted By: BakaKage

Posted On: May 8, 2004
Views: 627
RE: Self-mutilation

Everyone has thier own way of destroying themselves when they feel bad. Oddly enough, a number of guys will sleep with as many women as they can to deal with pain. Sounds like a good thing right? but they know its not...it eats them away and they have to justify to themselves every day why its okay that they are like that, that they arent hurting anyone, they arent hurting themselves...they lie constantly. Everyone has a way of self mutilation, although it may not be physically manifested, and in some cases those of average intelligence might actually assume they are doing good things. We all have our ways. Some jsut choose to only hurt themselves instead of bringing others down with them.


Posted By: starfly

Posted On: May 8, 2004
Views: 626
RE: Self-mutilation

Screw you, Maxx, and Harry P, did you ever talk to your friend about why she cut herself? as a former cutter, I'm thinking it was probably a lot more than that guy hooking up with her friend. Cutting is about feeling ****ty and needing to have an excuse- or a match on the outside for how you feel on the inside. And even though I'm no longer in that leaky boat, I have a lot of empathy and respect for those who are because it's a sad sad place to be when you realize that you feel so badly that you need to cut yourself just to find equilibrium.


Posted By: Cahsie

Posted On: Jan 25, 2008
Views: 537
RE: Self-mutilation

This is about 3 or 4 years too late. I hope she stopped. i dealt with the same thing this past year...I ended up talking to someone about it because the night before I nearly killed myself.
All I can say, is she needs to know you care. If you ever meet anyone who does it ever again...let them know you care. That's the only thing that kept me alive.